Challenge Number Seven: “What’s wrong with you people, that you could be so opposed to marriage equality?!”
(Seventh in a series of ten, from my new book Critical Conversations!)
More than any other slogan, it was “Marriage Equality” that carried the day for gay marriage in the United States. Christians still carry the stigma of having stood against equality — the modern Western virtue above all other virtues.
Which is ironic, because everyone believes in marriage in equality, and no one believes in marriage equality.
Everyone believes in marriage equality up to a point. For conservatives like myself, that point includes the requirement that there be a man and a woman. For others it could include same-sex marriage. But no one who believes in marriage in any form at all believes that any and every relationship deserves to be called marriage.
In other words, we agree on marriage equality. We agree that it has limits. We disagree on where those limits should be.
Somehow I can’t see “Marriage with different limits” being a slogan that would have worked for gay-rights advocates. They chose what worked instead. Instead of what honestly reflected the truth, that is.
And this is how they wanted portray their position as morally higher than ours. Irony abounds.
(There’s more on this topic in dialogue form here.)
There’s even more in the book!
In Critical Conversations I develop and extend the answer to this and other challenges, and I share practical relational guidance on how to share the answers in conversation. For parents, pastors, and other Christian leaders wondering what to say to children in their vulnerable years up through high school or even college, the book clears away the awkwardness and confusion. It clears a path toward conversations that can strengthen not only your teens’ faith but also your relationship with them.