“Keep Your Beliefs Out of Our Bedrooms!” — Christian Faith Under (Im)Moral Attack, Part Five


Challenge Number Five: “Keep Your Beliefs Out of Our Bedrooms!”

(Fifth in a series of ten, from my new book Critical Conversations!)

Short answer: Fine. We’re quite content to keep out of your bedrooms. We’re not content to ignore public policy, though.

I’m only doing 10 out of 27 topics of this sort from Critical Conversations, and I might have passed this one by if not for a supremely silly story at MSNBC.com yesterday. I’m not going to link to it, because the story is patently distorted: its sensationalist headline is not supported by the body of the article. It’s also not family-friendly. It does contain this amazing quote, however:

If [Ted] Cruz is prepared to argue that it’s “none of government’s business” when [sic] Americans do “in their private time,” how does the senator reconcile this with his support for government laws restricting reproductive rights and marriage equality?

Though “reproductive rights” are slightly off topic here, I’ll note in passing that the usual “reproductive rights” procedure — abortion — is not done in the kind of private time this article was about. Its effect isn’t private: it always involves an innocent third person who dies. And there are usually strangers there conducting the “procedure.” That’s hardly a “private time” matter.

Marriage policy isn’t about bedrooms, either. Marriage policy is by definition social policy.

More to the point, it was gay-rights activists who brought this whole controversy into the public sphere. It became a public concern when they made it one.

It’s not the private activities in people’s bedrooms that we’re concerned about. It’s all the public effect, from local gay pride parades to major legislative and judicial battles, which continue to ring with serious public implications.

In fact, this complaint is so obviously far off base, you’d be amazed to think anyone even makes it. You’d think it was something I just made up. But I didn’t make it up for the book, and I didn’t make it up in that MSNBC article. I’m sure you can find it if you doubt me on that. It just goes to show how irrationally far some people will reach to try to find some moral fault in our position.

As for “marriage equality” — also in that quote — well, good grief, nobody believes in that! (I’ll cover that one soon.)

There’s more in the book!

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2 Responses

  1. Jakeithus says:

    My least favourite Prime Minister ever once said “Government has no business in the bedrooms of the nation”, and ever since that quote has been twisted to justify ever increasing demands on society at large based entirely on what people want to do in their own bedrooms, with government being required to step in to enforce these demands. They’re cultural libertarians until someone acts in a way they disagree with and then they become the worst of cultural authoritarians instead.

  2. JAD says:

    Let’s make a deal. I will keep my beliefs out of your bedroom if you agree to keep your beliefs out of everyone’s bathrooms.

    Here’s an opinion from a well-known psychiatrist which is worth considering.

    The assertions of transgender Americans that they are locked in the wrong bodies is in no way, in my opinion, proven scientifically. No researcher has ever demonstrated convincingly—not one time—that a single transgender individual shows any irrefutable physiological evidence, whatsoever, of being the gender opposite to their DNA and anatomy.

    Transgender individuals, believing themselves to be female, despite having XY chromosomes, or male, despite XX chromosomes, seem to me to be indistinguishable, from a psychiatric standpoint, from those with paranoid delusions, who believe they are being stalked by the CIA, or those with anorexia who believe they are fat (even when they are thin as a rail) or those with body dysmorphic disorder who believe that their noses are imperfect and attempt to coerce plastic surgeons into one cosmetic procedure after another.


    Maybe we ought to think a little more about the issue of so-called transgender rights.