Challenge Number Five: “Keep Your Beliefs Out of Our Bedrooms!”
(Fifth in a series of ten, from my new book Critical Conversations!)
Short answer: Fine. We’re quite content to keep out of your bedrooms. We’re not content to ignore public policy, though.
I’m only doing 10 out of 27 topics of this sort from Critical Conversations, and I might have passed this one by if not for a supremely silly story at MSNBC.com yesterday. I’m not going to link to it, because the story is patently distorted: its sensationalist headline is not supported by the body of the article. It’s also not family-friendly. It does contain this amazing quote, however:
If [Ted] Cruz is prepared to argue that it’s “none of government’s business” when [sic] Americans do “in their private time,” how does the senator reconcile this with his support for government laws restricting reproductive rights and marriage equality?
Though “reproductive rights” are slightly off topic here, I’ll note in passing that the usual “reproductive rights” procedure — abortion — is not done in the kind of private time this article was about. Its effect isn’t private: it always involves an innocent third person who dies. And there are usually strangers there conducting the “procedure.” That’s hardly a “private time” matter.
Marriage policy isn’t about bedrooms, either. Marriage policy is by definition social policy.
More to the point, it was gay-rights activists who brought this whole controversy into the public sphere. It became a public concern when they made it one.
It’s not the private activities in people’s bedrooms that we’re concerned about. It’s all the public effect, from local gay pride parades to major legislative and judicial battles, which continue to ring with serious public implications.
In fact, this complaint is so obviously far off base, you’d be amazed to think anyone even makes it. You’d think it was something I just made up. But I didn’t make it up for the book, and I didn’t make it up in that MSNBC article. I’m sure you can find it if you doubt me on that. It just goes to show how irrationally far some people will reach to try to find some moral fault in our position.
As for “marriage equality” — also in that quote — well, good grief, nobody believes in that! (I’ll cover that one soon.)
There’s more in the book!
In Critical Conversations I develop and extend the answer to this and other challenges, and I share practical relational guidance on how to share the answers in conversation. For parents, pastors, and other Christian leaders wondering what to say to children in their vulnerable years up through high school or even college, the book clears away the awkwardness and confusion. It clears a path toward conversations that can strengthen not only your teens’ faith but also your relationship with them.